I didn’t do a very good job of picking my mate for child bearing.  In truth, I did think I had.  Nor were my own parents good at it….. self-reflection as the determining factor on how i fit into the current society. One wonders if there is something seriously diabolical about how we are “urged” “forced” subconsciously “coerced” into playing our gene-cards.  Just so “not” according to my plans.